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The one attitude that changes every relationship
- November 19, 2022
- Posted by: Marcel Sanchez
- Category: Building a Healthy Marriage Relationships
What crucial attitude—when practiced consistently in your life—serves to transform your relationships?
What resilient attitude has been proven to disarm anger, resentment, hate, unforgiveness, and violence?
The answer may surprise you, but the results are undeniable.
This one attitude has the capacity to change your marriage and transform your relationships at work.
It has the power to change the interaction you have with your neighbors, friends, and family members.
This one attitude has such amazing potential to change your relationships, but it is often overlooked.
This one attitude is bold, but meek.
This one attitude is self-aware, but intentional.
This one attitude is purposeful, but not ambitious.
This one attitude will reset your perspective and shape your character.
What is this amazing attitude?
The one attitude that changes every relationship is humility.
What crucial attitude—when practiced consistently in your life—serves to transform your relationships? Humility is the answer.
A 2,700 Mile Impact
Robert faced an excruciating and unexpected hardship.
A family member and close friend—who both lived far away from Robert—had a big conflict.
A critical disagreement had surfaced, but at the time, there was little Robert could do to help.
His family member and friend lived more than 2,700 miles away.
Robert was not the one directly having the conflict. His family and close friend had the conflict.
However, even though Robert lived on another continent, the weight of this conflict affected him deeply.
Although not aimed at Robert directly, the conflict grieved Robert deeply in his soul.
The conflict affected Robert’s relationships at work and at home.
Robert spent much time processing the situation and working to find a solution.
What made matters worse was that Robert was unable to move things in the right direction.
Everyone who lived and worked with Robert felt his pain and inner conflict over the matter.
Robert had to practice a new measure of humility that would stretch the very core of his soul.
Principles of Relational Sustainability
Merriam Webster Dictionary defines humility as, “Freedom from pride or arrogance: the quality or state of being humble.”
Humility is the one attitude that can make all the difference in your life.
Think for a minute about the relationships in your life.
Is your present attitude in these relationships helping you to develop healthy sustainable relationships?
Be honest with yourself. Is your pride or your arrogance getting in the way?
Are you demanding more than serving or taking more than giving?
Here’s a hard reality for you to consider.
Developing healthy relationships is actually interconnected.
You may be asking, “What do you mean?”
Every relationship you have impacts the relationships you build with others.
Moreover, every relational conflict you experience, impacts your relationship with others.
This is often an overlooked principle.
So here’s the question: Why does this matter?
When one relationship in your life is challenged by conflict, all other relationships will feel the impact.
When relationships at work experience significant challenges, your marriage will feel the impact.
When clients abruptly move to your competitor without warning, your co-workers will feel the impact.
When neighbors have unreasonable expectations, your family will feel it as well.
So, what’s the good news? Practicing humility leads you to develop relational sustainability.
You can’t control what others think, but you can control how you think.
You can’t control what others say, but you can control how you speak.
You can’t control how others react, but you can control how you respond.
You can’t control what others do, but you can control your actions.
In all these areas, humility is not only essential, but also required.
The Perfect Model of Humility—Jesus
Although we will pick up our principle of humility in our next article, let’s meditate on a key verse.
For today, read through Philippians 2:1-11.
Think about the extraordinary ways Jesus—the King of Kings—humbled himself for God’s glory and for your benefit.
Jesus was able to endure every hardship and injustice without retaliation or sinning against the Father.
Philippians 2:1-11, CSB
If, then, there is any encouragement in Christ, if any consolation of love, if any fellowship with the Spirit, if any affection and mercy, make my joy complete by thinking the same way, having the same love, united in spirit, intent on one purpose.
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility consider others as more important than yourselves. Everyone should look not to his own interests, but rather to the interests of others.
Adopt the same attitude as that of Christ Jesus, who, existing in the form of God, did not consider equality with God as something to be exploited. Instead he emptied himself by assuming the form of a servant, taking on the likeness of humanity. And when he had come as a man, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death—even to death on a cross.
For this reason God highly exalted him and gave him the name that is above every name, so that at the name of Jesus every knee will bow—in heaven and on earth and under the earth—and every tongue will confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.
Application
Since every relational conflict is interconnected, where do you currently have a humility deficit that needs to be filled?
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