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I Never Expected This Tough Guy to Cry in My Office
- November 12, 2022
- Posted by: Marcel Sanchez
- Category: Building a Healthy Marriage Marriage Training Relationships
Have You Ever Had Someone Cry in Your Office?
It was about twelve years ago, but I remember the moment like it was yesterday afternoon.
This tough, physically strong, and hardworking man could not hold back the tears. It was certainly a sight to behold.
He was overwhelmed with frustration and uncertain about the future of his marriage.
After weeks of increasing tension with his wife and family, he and his wife sat quietly in my office.
Have you ever experienced hopelessness in your marriage?
This meeting was something that no one would enjoy to experience, at least not the surprising introduction that afternoon. An overwhelming feeling of hopelessness abruptly settled into his heart.
It was more than he could handle at that moment. His wife was at a loss for words as she sat puzzled in her chair staring at her husband weep.Â
He had moved hundreds of pounds of materials every week, but he could not move his marriage forward.
He was a confident contractor, but whatever confidence remained for his marriage was lost.
He could fix things with his hands rather easily, but he could not fix the hole in his relationship.
She was a rising professional, but her marriage was in steady decline.
She was ambitious, building her career, but her most important relationship was crumbling before her.
She had an incredible disposition to help others, but she could not help her husband.
They both enjoyed long conversations with their friends, but they seldom talked at length.
They both believed that God was part of the solution, but they didn’t know where to start.
They both wanted a better future, but what they lacked was a proven plan of action.
So, we gathered in my office, and the marriage coaching session got started. At first, it was a painful process to work through all the relational baggage that kept this couple at opposite ends of life. His wife was not very hopeful about their future, but she was more than willing to do her part.Â
An immovable commitment to God and to your spouse is the starting point to restore the brokenness in your marriage.
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When It All Came Together
Although I had worked with many couples prior to this engagement—for some reason—I was moved deep within my soul as this man poured out his heart in my presence. As I remember the empty look in his wife’s eyes, it shook me at my core. It was the cry for help and the longing for hope combined into one meeting. I was also moved by their mutual commitment to make their marriage work.
When you are willing to do whatever it takes to keep your marriage growing, you’re on the right path to finding so much more than what you’re looking for.Â
This one couple challenged me—without them knowing about this challenge—to write a marriage book to help guide them on this journey to relational health. In Spanish it’s called, Matrimonio Por Diseño. In English, it was called, Marriage Catalyst. This couple served as the catalyst in my life for writing additional books, speaking at marriage conferences internationally and developing online marriage courses.
After months of marriage coaching and making adjustments in their beliefs and habits, this couple followed a proven plan to restore their broken relationship. And just this last week, they closed on their first home. I’m sure their children and grandchildren are beyond thrilled!
And this is why I continue coaching married couples today and creating online marriage courses to help them thrive. It all started with this one broken couple. My original thought was, if it worked for them as it had worked for my wife and I, surely it can work for every couple. Â
What do you need to grow your marriage?Â
You need a commitment, a coach, and a course of action.Â
What about your marriage?
Your marriage doesn’t have to be bad to get better.Â
Your marriage doesn’t have to be weak to find strength.Â
Your marriage doesn’t have to be a mess to discover a new plan.
Your marriage doesn’t have to be in turmoil before you find your purpose.Â
And you certainly don’t have to wait until the word divorce enters into your conversations before you hire a marriage coach.Â
Imagine if this next year your marriage could get better.
What would happen if your marriage moved from a good marriage to a great marriage?
Can your relationship benefit from marriage coaching?
The married couples I serve are crazy busy, faith-based professionals with a strong desire to grow their marriage and build the life of their dreams.Â
Does that sound like you and your spouse?
These couples are managing their family, building their businesses, growing their careers, and often advancing their education. These high performers don’t have time to waste.Â
They’re committed to their spouse, committed to their faith, committed to their family, and to the process of strengthening their relationship. These couples want a proven formula to make their marriage grow.Â
They make thoughtful investments to move their relationship forward to get them from where they are to where they want to be.
Are you a good fit for marriage coaching?
The best way to find out is to first complete the Marriage Coaching Application.
Once you complete the application, you can book your Complimentary Discovery Call.Â
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