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How To Be Generous In Your Physical Affection With Your Spouse
- January 7, 2023
- Posted by: Marcel Sanchez
- Category: Building a Healthy Marriage Marriage Training Relationships
It was a moment filled with great excitement and professional satisfaction.
A large client had contacted me by phone to let me know that he was sending back a signed copy of our professional training agreement.
It was so much more than good news; it was great news!
The first person I contacted was my wife, Yami.
And needless-to-say, she was excited for our family.
The celebration led to rich hugs and not a few kisses.
The news generated a generous amount of laughter, excitement, encouraging words, and physical affection.
Here’s a question for you to consider.
Should physical affection with your spouse be continuous and generous?
Let’s explore this idea a bit more.
Physical Generosity is the Norm in a Healthy Marriage
We’ve progressed through important aspects of affection and relational intimacy with your spouse.
Now you can see with greater clarity how crucial it is to practice humility in your marriage for encouragement and affection to flourish.
We now arrive at sexual intimacy. The order is intentional.
When relational intimacy is ongoing and thriving in your marriage,
sexual intimacy will increase and thrive as well.
When you read about affection and sexual intimacy in marriage throughout the Bible, responsibility and generosity are both present.
What does this mean?
You’re exclusively responsible to satisfy your spouse sexually.
You’re to be generous in giving your body to your spouse for their sexual pleasure.
For your marriage to thrive, these two principles must remain continuous.
And remember, they’re both the product of your relational intimacy.
Let’s look at what the Bible tells us in Paul’s letter to the Corinthian believers.
1 Corinthians 7:3, CSB
A husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise a wife to her husband.
Here Paul establishes the principle of mutual fulfillment.
Both husband and wife have ongoing needs of affection and sexual intimacy.
The key word to consider is the word fulfill.
Other translations use the word give to describe your responsibility.
As we dig deeper, the word points us to pay back to a debt that is owed.
The need your spouse has for affection and sexual fulfillment is an ongoing debt in your marriage.
And if this debt of physical affection is not paid regularly, temptation and relational deterioration is inevitable in your marriage.
It is profitable—and mutually beneficial—for you to give yourself willingly and generously to your spouse.
I know, you have a busy life, right?
There are responsibilities at work, children at home to love and manage, and people to talk with.
There are books to read, groceries to buy, and events to attend.
The day-to-day activities are endless and exhausting.
However, these things don’t change your sexual responsibility to your spouse.
Be generous in directing your physical affections to your spouse.
You must make the time and you must find a way to be more generous in this important area.
The sustained health of your marriage relationship depends on it.
Your Body Belongs to God and to Your Spouse
Paul takes the conversation a step further.
1 Corinthians 7:3-4, CSB
A husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise a wife to her husband. A wife does not have the right over her own body, but her husband does. In the same way, a husband does not have the right over his own body, but his wife does.
Not only are you to give your spouse your physical affections and satisfy their sexual desires and needs, but you’re to give them authority over your body.
What does that mean?
It means that your body is available for their sexual pleasure.
You don’t have the authority to say, “Sorry, my body is not available for this next month for your sexual fulfillment.”
That’s not your call to make.
Your body belongs to God and to your spouse.
You don’t have the authority to neglect your spouse sexually without their permission.
You will be physically, emotionally, and mentally tired during the week.
Co-workers will frustrate you and clients will demand more of your time.
You will face obstacles at work that drain you.
There will be challenges at home that frustrate you.
You will face difficulties in your family and challenges in your health.
You will have friends that disappoint you or neighbors that annoy you.
Life is full of these things; they often arrive without any warning.
Don’t allow these things to stop the flow of relational intimacy and physical affection, including sexual intimacy.
But regardless of those things, your responsibility to your spouse continues.
There’s a debt for you to pay.
It’s the most pleasurable and recurring debt you will every pay.
And this responsibility is by God’s perfect design for your marriage to thrive.
Coach Marcel
Personal Application
Are you and your spouse regularly practicing generous physical affection with one another?
What things do you need to adjust in your relational intimacy, physical affection, or sexual generosity to get your marriage back on track?
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